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As the editor of a dating magazine, I see a lot of dating tips from a lot of different sources. Whether it’s experts in psychology and relationships, dating coaches, a bartender, best-selling authors, or someone’s best friend, some of the best dating and relationship advice comes from the most unlikely of places. But sometimes, it helps to got to the most likely place too… In this case, straight to the source. If you’re looking for some good online dating tips for men, why not ask other women who are online dating what tips they would give you?
To help out we surveyed over 3,000 women on the online dating site and app Zoosk and asked what their top online dating tips for men are. What we got was some great insight and some short, but sweet tips men can start using right away.
Here are their 33 online dating tips for men:
1. “Be honest from the beginning! Kindness truly is hot, so if you’re trying to impress a woman, that’s an excellent place to start.”
2. “Don’t just say hi, personalize your message at least a little. You don’t have to write a novel, but a couple of sentences so that I know you’re aren’t just fishing helps a lot.”
3. “When you take a picture for your profile, make sure we can see your eyes.”
4. “Like, winks, etc. are how women give you the signal to message them.”
5. “If you’re chatting with me and we have a lot in common and you like me, let me know. I want to move forward to see if we should meet.”
6. “Don’t use the word drama in your profile. Life is full of ups and downs—that’s what gives life color and depth. Using that word makes the assumption that women are the only ones that are involved in drama.”
7. “Smile! (I’m always amazed at how many men have pictures of them frowning or not smiling.)”
8. “With online dating, you need to find the right balance between chatting online and having real-life experiences. If you go too long chatting, you can turn into a pen pal.”
9. “Have a good, recent photo. Don’t have pictures of your cars or other trophies and don’t crop out former significant others and leave behind a hand on your shoulder.”
10. “Don’t limit yourself to finding true love in a 5 mile radius. Your soulmate may live further away than that.”
11. “Say something! Don’t keep sending hearts or smiley faces.”
12. “When approaching a woman, don’t start out with a compliment on her physical appearance, or just say hi or hey. Comment on something in her picture, but not her looks, or comment on something in her profile that caught your eye.”
13. “You aren’t trying to impress another man, you’re trying to impress a woman, which means, you might have to show a softer side. A slimy fish photo might not be the best thing to use in your profile.”
14. “Don’t start out by calling a woman sweetie or beautiful. Until you get to know someone that comes off as just another line.”
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15. “Start a general conversation and go from there.”
16. “Don’t talk too much about yourself at first. Ask about her.”
17. “Be kind, be understanding, and above all be yourself.”
18. “Always end your conversations with a question to show you’re interested and want to continue talking.”
19. “Be strong and confident enough to know what you want and go for it.”
20. “Don’t text or email excessively. Exchange a few messages then ask about meeting. Coffee or a drink is best.”
21. “Asking for more photos is a turn off. Don’t do it.”
22. “Get to know her, and what she likes and dislikes. You want to build a friendship with her that builds up your relationship.”
23. “Make the first move by saying something fun and/or interesting.”
24. “Women are just as nervous and scared as men. Just talk to us like you would anyone else.”
25. “Take good pictures, ask me questions to get to know me better, make me laugh, and be open.”
26. “Never walk away from a conversation even if it’s online. Just tell her you have to go and talk later.”
27. “Be yourself from the very beginning. When you try to impress someone, your true self gets lost and that might be what the other person really wants.”
28. “Don’t be afraid to tell a woman how you really feel about something. There is nothing wrong with having an opinion and she will appreciate the honesty.”
29. “Give her a second chance if she’s shy.”
30. “Talk and chat like you’re hanging out with a friend at first.”
31. “Don’t look at a woman’s dating profile a million times and say nothing. Even hi is good if you’re at a loss for what to say.”
32. “Consider someone you might not usually be attracted to.”
33. “Approach online dating with an open heart. Everyone is a new person.”
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Adulting is hard, and when it comes to dating, the struggle is even more real. Everyone seems to have Christian dating advice. Sometimes the advice is conflicting, confusing, and downright stressful.
“Don’t spend too much time alone with them” vs. “Make sure you spend lots of quality time together.”
“Date for no more than two years” vs. “You have to date for at least two years.”
“Date different people before getting serious” vs. “Only date people you see as a potential spouse.”
“Don’t be too clingy” vs. “Make sure they know you’re interested” vs. “Relax!”
But dating doesn’t have to freak you out. Check out this excerpt from the Collective Bible plan and Collective itself as you navigate this whole #adulting thing.
As a Christian, dating can be an uncomfortable—even downright dicey—topic. Probably because there’s a lot of different advice out there that may not be helpful. But dating—casually or seriously—can be a way that you glorify God. Let’s talk about dating and purpose and how they go together.
For starters, you can take off some of the unnecessary pressure that gets put on dating relationships. People often talk about wanting to find “the one,” and that just doesn’t exist. No one person is going to complete you. Only Jesus can fulfill your deepest desires to be known, seen, and loved for exactly who you are. Instead, you’re looking for someone else who is passionately pursuing Jesus and who can help you be a better Christ follower.
That also doesn’t mean that every coffee date you go on has to be a frantic search to answer the question: “Is this person ‘marriage material’?” You can get to know people and hear their stories. Focus on forming friendships, and don’t stress yourself out trying to picture a future with everyone you go out with.
However, you can and should set boundaries to have healthy relationships. Decide now how you’ll date. Set limits on where you’ll draw the line physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
The thing about the line, though, is that you’ll want to make sure you’re not tiptoeing around it. Your goal shouldn’t be “What can I do that doesn’t cross the line?” Your goal should be “How can this relationship bring the most honor to God?” When that’s your goal, it becomes pretty easy to set the right boundaries to protect yourself now from hurt that could happen later.
There can also be tension between having relationships and pursuing your purpose, but there doesn’t have to be. Don’t wait to pursue your purpose until you’re in a relationship, because again, no one person is going to complete you.
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Instead, ask God what your next right step is—and do it. Wait for relationships with purpose by living out your purpose.
There’s a lot of pressure to go to college, find a relationship, get engaged, and get married. That’s great for some people, but it’s not a universal story. And that’s okay! Break up with expectations about what’s supposed to happen and enjoy the season God has you in.
Whether you’re in a relationship or single, God has a plan for you, so focus on doing the next right thing and falling more in love with Jesus. The rest will fall into place.